it’s up to us

I’m sitting in front of a window overlooking the East River. It’s calm and I see the lights to the north and south of Manhattan and the lights of Queens and it’s beautiful. I turned off the TV an hour ago, and as I look at the beauty before me, I’m thinking of what water has done to parts of Louisiana. Again we’re left wondering about many things. We play the TV images over and over in our mind, but nothing is resolved. We cannot make the misery go away. Most of us are not going to Louisiana to physically help. We donate money. We donate clothes. And we pray. We all have different opinions about what’s going on in our world today. We live in interesting times in that information is always at our fingertips. There is something strange about witnessing the suffering of people long distance as they’re going through incredible pain.

I went to the Union Square Greenmarket www.unionsquarejournal.com/greenmarket.htm and as I lifted a handful of okra I said to the woman next to me that it was my first time buying it. She smiled and told me the best way to prepare it. She said she’s from New Orleans and is a caterer, and tonight she was preparing dinner for a group of friends. Everyone was going to pay $50 for the meal. The money would be donated. That was her way of helping people in her hometown. I’m sure a lot of love will go into the meal she prepares tonight.
And I understand that what we do with the information we see on the screen is up to us.

trusting our world

“Don’t play for safety – it’s the most dangerous game in the world. ”
-Hugh Walpole

For many reasons I love this quote. I have it written in a notebook and whenever I read it an incredible feeling comes over me. Because I really do believe this world belongs to everyone and we have to trust it and welcome it into our lives, confident that we’re more than capable of living life lovingly, wisely, grandly, happily, peacefully. It’s a delightful quote; it reminds us to be free, to abandon stress, and to imagine the things we’ve yet to do.

One evening I caught the tail end of a lecture given by Christiane Northrup, www.drnorthrup.com on PBS. Listening to her was fun; she had a radiant smile, and although the topic seemed heavy (The Mother/Daughter Relationship), she played with this subject and everyone in the audience enjoyed listening. Then she ended the evening saying there’s no reason to be sick when we start getting old. “Happy, healthy, dead” is the way she phrased it. I can’t remember how it tied into the subject, but it did. Those words, happy, healthy, dead seemed magical to me. When I think about them I say them because I want to plant the seed for this at a future date. It just dawned on me as I’m writing that I should start adding the part about a future date, or it will seem that I’m ready to say goodbye to this life. We need to feel the world is a friendly place, even though it doesn’t always appear that way.

“Everytime we choose safety, we reinforce fear . . . our world grows smaller and smaller.”
-Cheri Huber

certain places

Well, I’m still in a big city and that being the case there’s lots to do. However, I’m not spending time in the typical way i.e. going to museums, touring all the sites and everything else one does. No. This is a more or less contemplative summer. The time is perfect to do this. And although, as we all know, there are many things to do in a big city, it’s possible to not do anything at all. Going to Central park alone and sitting with others who want a quiet day, enjoying the beautiful, majestic old trees, rocks, fountains, lake, pond. And walking a bit longer looking for the perfect place to spread a colorful cotton blanket where the lawn is expansive and there’s more than enough space for everyone, taking out a favorite book from a bag, or a notebook and pen, along with a sandwich and drink is the beginning of a lovely day.

The world is a complex place right now, and to take time to find where one belongs in this world is relevant to the art of living. And that, of course, means different things to different people.

Keep you eyes open, experience more and “see” less. The “sights” have a tendency to merge together. How many Gothic cathedrals can you really appreciate? – Dan Neely

a day to appreciate

Today was a beautiful day. The humidity was down, the sun was out, the sky was light this evening and it just seemed very peaceful. The upper west side had plenty of people strolling as it often does and the cafes were pleasantly busy. Cooking is fun because of the numerous markets conveniently located in this area. But on such a day it’s lovely to eat out and be part of the atmosphere. Any time during the day there are people sitting leisurely most often with a book, not a newspaper. How interesting. I thought. Some people sipped wine, other people drank coffee and many salads were eaten throughout the day. The salads looked delicious and I wanted to lean in and take a little bite. I felt no stress in the air; some days are like that even in Manhattan. Cars were quieter. Honking seemed not to be in the noisy way it so often is.

In my corner of the world today it was a day to appreciate.

guatemala “don’t use the water to . . . “

I try to not remember Guatemala because although I was looking forward to being there, staying with a family and studying Spanish, seeing all the great sites, enjoying the food, meeting the people, going to the markets, things don’t always happen the way you plan. It could have been on my first night in Guatemala when I stayed at a lovely Inn in Antigua, and placed my toothbrush under the faucet, forgetting about the warning of “Don’t use the water to . . . ”

When I was in Panama, I met someone who entertained me with his traveling stories (all kinds of stories), and he described, all too vividly, his experiences with montezuma’s revenge. And those experiences he described became mine a few months later.

So, let me say this one more time, because this I know from experience, some people just don’t listen to those warnings of, “Don’t use the water to . . . ”

the creamiest

I woke this morning thinking about the little red potatoes I had put in a bag under the kitchen table waiting to be cooked. Then I imagined a bowl of creamy white potatoes flavored with garlic, as many cloves as I want. The unpeeled garlic had been gently cooked in water, peeled, then mashed into those little boiled red potatoes with pepper and Celtic salt added to taste. I should have kept the water the potatoes were boiled in, since I’m one of those lactose intolerant people, but I didn’t, so I added some bottled hot water, a little at a time, mashing those little red potatoes into the creamiest of the creamiest.

And tomorrow, if there’s enough left over, enough so that the creamiest of the creamiest is still the main ingredient, I’ll slice a cucumber and fold it into them for a tasty cold dish. Maybe I’ll add sliced scallions and place it all on a bed of greens.

malta and gozo

It’s so easy to like Malta and Gozo. They have so much history. Learning and exploring involves you in stories of numerous invaders, the influence of the Italians, British, Turks and Arabs. The prominence of the Catholic Church, the Hospitallers Knights of the Order of St. John of Jerusalem, St. John’s Co-Cathedral & Museum, St. Paul’s and St. Agatha’s Catacombs, Tarxien Temples, and the calm, lovely community and magnificent blue waters of Gozo.

I went to Malta on the enthusiasm of an acquaintance. The only information I got from him was the guesthouse he stayed at in Bugibba. That was enough because to know one Maltese is to have Malta at your fingertips – the Maltese are that friendly. I stayed at the guesthouse in Bugibba, and found little effort was needed to get around Malta. I joined the early morning strollers along the Mediterranean, looked out at the colorful fishing boats (luzzu), and I noticed the coffee shops across the street with signs in their windows promising an “English breakfast.”

From the guesthouse, it’s an interesting walk along the Mediterranean to the Bugibba bus station. There I learn that the old rickety buses are from England, and are over fifty years old. And I’m told that Valletta, the capital, is a good starting point as most of Malta’s towns and villages are connected to it by bus. I go to Valletta, and quickly notice its rich history, and beautiful architecture. A good guidebook leads the way for exploration. I walk up and down the cobblestone streets, and eventually stop at Fort St. Elmo. A Maltese who’s fascinated with Malta’s history, esp. Malta’s part in WWII, approaches me. Soon he’s my tour guide. He has encyclopedic knowledge, and I try to listen and learn.

After two weeks at the guesthouse, I decide to rent an apartment for a month. I walk along the beautiful Mediterranean, and come to an area called St. Paul’s Bay. I pass a curious elderly woman, arms planted on the window sill; she looks like she’s waiting for something to happen. I back up and ask her whether she knows of an apartment I could rent. She does, leaves to get her keys, and away we go. She says that the apartment belongs to her and her four siblings, and she tells me that all of them are single. As we walk to the apartment, she informs me that they own and operate a restaurant/bar on the premises where I first saw her.

The very old Maltese apartment is located on a quiet nondescript street. The buildings are all attached. It’s large, and the old furnishings give it a lived-in feeling. I’ve never seen an apartment with this type of design. The bedrooms are large, the hallways scattered throughout the apartment are large and long, and I see a courtyard somewhere in the middle of all the rooms. The kitchen is small, the hallway leading to it is very large, and there is an unusually long rectangular table at the end of the apartment just outside the kitchen. I rent it for $400 a month. It doesn’t take long to find that wherever I am in the apartment, I feel isolated. After two weeks of trying to be comfortable without success, I approach the elderly woman to tell her I’m leaving. As I said, the Maltese are friendly and accepting. I don’t expect to get any money back, but without asking, she returns the rest of the rent, and invites me to lunch at her restaurant.

I’m always awed by the differences that exist when visiting a country. There’s always the people, the land, the buildings, the history, the culture – all the sites – and the learning. I try to keep in mind though that underneath all the differences, the basics are the same all over the world.

where’s the mystery?

I went to a magazine shop to purchase a few magazines for a friend who was not feeling well. And there they were, many monthly magazines with pictures of movie celebrities on their covers — the too many stories about celebrities, including the gossip. And I ask myself, Why oh why do we need to know this stuff?

How does it enrich one’s life to know: what celebrities wear, the shampoo they use, their weight, their fashion designer, the color of their lipstick, the food they eat, the cars they drive, the design of their homes, the cologne they wear, the names of their family members (and ages), when they had plastic surgery, why they had plastic surgery, who their new heartthrob is, where they vacation, etc. etc. etc. The media want us to live our lives through so-called celebrities, and what I’d like to know is why do we? – Why do some of us need to spend so much time collecting all this meaningless information? Why can’t we simply stick to the subject of what makes them great actors (or not), and continue on with making our own lives as wonderful as can be.

A bit of mystery makes life interesting; that might be especially true in the acting world.

staying or leaving

I never think about death in a morbid sense because I believe I came to terms with it in my childhood. As you will see when you read on, I didn’t think too deeply in those days.

At the age of eleven I was very near the tallest girl in my Catholic school class. This was not good in those days. I was already the skinniest, and was called toothpick legs by some of the boys in the class. The girls were close, but the boys, they knew how to hurt, and calling someone toothpick legs was about as cruel, I thought, as anyone could get. Something needed to change, so when I returned home from school I’d go into the bathroom and have a heart- to-heart talk with God. I explained ( pleaded) the importance of being four inches shorter, and if this were not possible, then he could just come and get me cause I wasn’t staying.

Well, the year went by and I didn’t get any shorter. But what happened was I became comfortable with the idea of death, and I believe it all began in the bathroom, bargaining (pleading) for leaving rather than staying.

the life you were born to live by dan millman

Have you read the book, The Life You Were Born To Live by Dan Millman? www.danmillman.com

When we bought it, it became an instant success in the family, and also with visitors who came to our apartment. I know they enjoyed the book because there would usually be a phone call a day or two later saying, “I was at the bookstore and picked up that book we were looking at a few days ago.”

What is the book’s appeal besides being entertaining? Because entertaining is not a good enough reason in this instance. So why do people go out and buy it soon after spending a few hours with it? Maybe because the book, the “Life Purpose System,” gently guides. It doesn’t dictate, or get you into a dark mood because it’s complicated and heavy. Rather it suggests and informs. The words, and what they’re expressing, grab the reader. You see a quizzical expression, a smile, a nod, an agreement from the one reading.

I’m not the best person to point to why a book is good reading, or why it isn’t. Every word that’s written about a book, person, movie, restaurant, or place is just someone else’s opinion. And because it’s an opinion, one opinion is as good as another. Perhaps this opinion will bring you to a bookstore. Perhaps it won’t.

And so it goes.