Is there a person, hopefully not more than one, in your life who tries to control you in very subtle ways? Usually you feel tense with this person, and are not sure what to say or how to be. No matter what you say or do, it’s never quite right. To top it off, the controlling one is also sensitive, and can be as sweet as candy when the situation warrants. This kind of behavior leaves you not knowing whether you’re coming or going.
Walking on egg shells-not wanting to upset the apple cart-leads to a crazy, tricky, lopsided relationship. And I’ve come to realize that it’s okay to upset the apple cart because walking on egg shells is not fun, and upsetting the apple cart is. Really! Have no fear; change can be ever so fine. Indeed!
The stress of a holiday can heighten the egg shell walk. The thing to remember is that the bark of the controlling one is usually much worse than the bite. Sit, relax for awhile, and ask yourself why you allow this relationship to be as it is, and how can you change it. Use your imagination to its fullest. There’s always a way. Sit, relax, feel-without any fear.
This is good advice but, in my experience, not easy to practice!