More and more people are talking about spending a Christmas that is not centered around gift-giving and stress. For one thing, the old way is too tiring. The joy we’re supposed to feel at this time of the year is being replaced with feelings of inadequacy-of not being able to live up to a Christmas Day “they” talk about from October to December. Every year it’s revved up to a new level. By the time we do all the things “they” say is a part of the Christmas spirit, we’re overwhelmed and exhausted. By the time Christmas Day arrives we’ve lost all sense of its meaning. Let’s make Christmas what we want it to be – what we think it should be – and in the process guard our sanity.